Marriage: An ultimate goal of life?¿

Disclaimer: This is not kinda typical blog. Its just all about my experiences. So, happy reading. 

"Baby, you will be adored the same way on your wedding the way this bride is." was said by one of my elder sister in a wedding I had attended. I was a five year old girl then with lots of imaginations. As she said this, I began imagining, wow.. the day when I will be glorified the same way this bride is.. I will have all the attention of the people and unlike now, I will be sitting on that grand chair and will be photographed.. amazing!!! My eyes shined. I began imagining my own wedding in the shahnais of that wedding which was passing through my ears while I was thinking all this.

Days passed.

I exactly don't remember the day now when the movie, Rab ne bana di jodi was released. That day, I with my family, had gone to theatre to watch that movie. And finally, the scene came which was awaited by all, their marriage! The couple were married and the leading actress in that movie was living very simple life after marriage too. That striked my childish mind! Wow.. after marriage, girl can be without jewellary.. the way you want to be.. its not a compulsion that you have to wear heavy jewellary. Great! What all is needed then! You can be the way you want to be.

Days passed.

"Arey girl, leave that, why you don't simply understand the things the way it is!!" was said by my mother and till now I was in class eighth."But mummi, its hurting you, see, you have got scars too in your feets, unwear it na! Otherwise that wound will not get cured well unless you remove those." I was talking about the foot rings that were lying in my mother's feets from the time I was in her lap. "No girl, this is pious, even you too have to wear it once you get married.. this is a sign of a married woman.. this is her pride.. I will apply ointment on the wound there and it will be fine, and you too learn these things now being a girl." 

"Ok fine na." Said the girl, me. 

So you can't be the way at all after marriage. Ok, we should follow the traditions, said the inner voice of the girl who was full of imaginations. The dreams of that girl that were earlier you can be anyway the way you want to be after marriage got shattered in a moment. I got to know that day, movies and realities are really like earth and sky, so much of difference.

Days passed.

I was in class tenth now. In classes, the jokes related to sex, marriage, girlfriends, boyfriends, reproduction, babies, etc. were more loudly cracked by our genius classmates than the lectures of teachers who used to speak in so low tone.(I know that hormones are at peak at that age but not your senses atleast.) Period. =_=

"Hey! When are you giving feast girl!?"

"Feast, about what but?"

"About your marriage." One of my classmates asked this to me when we were just aimlessly walking in the school lawn.

"Oh that! Well, I too donno anything about that." I said promptly.

"Are yaar, what are your plans then after marriage!?"

I knew that she was just casually saying all this, just having fun, so I too was saying everything in a light manner. 

"Not thought about marriage yet." Said I.

"And about kids and family?" She asked laughingly.

"Babies, its a painful process for a girl!!! So I have not thought anything regarding that and as you are talking about family, then we are taught na Vasudev Kutumbakam, so the entire earth is our family." This was the most satisfactory reply from my side till now.

After a few minutes silence, the group of girls bursted into loud laugh.

"Shit! I made my own joke." This was me shouting inside me against me.

At night, I began thinking of all those incidents happened with me. I was like, its ok, I didn't say anything wrong. One will not die without marriage afterall. Of course, one needs a partner for emotional security, intimacy, now you can't do intercourse with a running street dog afterall! Damn! Some still do for experience. Their choice. =_=

Next day I went to school and the same girl asked, "Don't you need someone who can understand you better than you?" 

There was a silence inside me. A deep silence. A silence inside both heart and mind. That whole day I remained in that thought, in that deep silence amidst those loud noises in class. That silence remained till I was in 12th. Do I really need someone who can hold my hands till my last breath or till his last breath or both simultaneously!? Do I really need emotional security? Do I really need those couply cozy cuddles, hugs, kisses and all!? Oh my god! I am in mess now!!!

And now I have a answer for that too, though I am not describing here from where I got the answer but just the answer is: Look deeply into your nature and you will find that you don't need anyone to live with whether emotionally or physically. It all begins from you and ends at you. Atlast, you will left with the memories only of your partner. Those are sweet ones but later hurts too when they leave you forever, when the death arrives. 

And now when anyone asks me that don't you want to marry and have your own family!? I smile and say, isn't my passion my partner and the entire world my family! The orphange kids, the poors without blanket in chilly winters, the kids roaming on roads without slippers, the old aged people who are left out, the children of slum areas, and a lot more I can count of! Aren't they my family! Such a big family I have. And when you have such a big family then why will you go in such complex process of marriage for just getting your own blood family! Blood and without blood are just created by us and that's it. So why making marriage as an ultimate goal of life after attaining all your goals? Widen your horizon and you will be surrounded by a sweet and happy family which is made of your own. Your passion, your nature and your very being.

Hope you enjoyed the way I enjoyed while jotting down my experiences. ^_^

Thank you for reading :)